How many of us have had those moments where we just sob to ourselves believing we are bad parents? Kids test us daily (if not hourly) and these tests will try us to our limits and beyond. But those moments of despair where we believe we are bad parents are only moments. Because we know we are great parents, strong, successful, and the glue that holds out little family together. No matter how bad it gets, we are exceptional women with an exceptional job that we excel at daily.
There are many times when you won’t believe this, but us Moms are actually better at this alone. Military wives will tell you that things seem to get harder when the husbands first come back home. The routines and organisation that we implement to manage each day gets turned upside down and inside out when another adult arrives on the scene. So being alone can simplify our lives as parents.
Now here comes the downside of being alone. Being You is darn difficult when you are on your own with children. With no-one to give you respite from being Mommy, You can easily disappear from sight altogether. This is why it is so hard raising kids on your own. Any mommy in the world will tell you that the number one priority in every decision is the kids. Every second you breathe in and out is dedicated to them. It doesn’t matter how many other responsible adults are there for you, the priority remains the same. And you are more than happy to self-sacrifice for them.
But there are times when you have to put Mommy to the side and bring You back out. Mommy is soft and gentle and kind and patient. This is great with the kids but not so helpful with the toughness of the real world. If the father of your children is late to make his parent contribution payments, the soft approach rarely works. Broken down relationships involving children need a hardline approach. So you call a law firm like Maceau Law and let them take care of the problems for you. Your job as mommy is far too extensive to take on everything, so delegate or recruit help whenever you can. Don’t let things like this go, for the sake of your children.
Asking for help, even if you are paying for it, can be very hard. Without that help, you cannot be the very best mommy you want to be, and you’ll have no chance at being You either. With children, it is really tough to find that You time or to even find the energy to make use of it. You should try to allocate at least one hour a day to indulging yourself. It is easier said than done when you can barely find time for a five-minute shower a day, but try. You owe it to yourself to have that time even if it can only be taken once the kids are in bed. And make the most of it! Learn a musical instrument or practice some Yoga. Make that time something you are physically, emotionally and mentally involved in rather than letting a TV or internet screen wash over you.
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